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As someone with a loved one in prison, you're likely all too familiar with the unique challenges and burdens that come with this situation. At Pelipost, we understand the critical importance of prioritizing your mental health during this difficult time, especially given the disproportionate impact incarceration has on women.

The Invisible Labor of Women

Women, particularly women of color, often bear the brunt of the costs—both financial and emotional—of a loved one's incarceration. As Jo Kreiter, a San Francisco-based choreographer whose husband was incarcerated, aptly puts it: "One of the things that is extremely true in America is that women are the reentry system. And we're not just the reentry system or the pre-entry system. We're the pretrial system."

This invisible labor extends far beyond emotional support. Women like Cassandra Butler, who has been caring for loved ones in prison for nearly two decades, often find themselves juggling multiple jobs, raising children, and managing household expenses—all while trying to maintain connections with their incarcerated loved ones.

Butler's experience illustrates the immense financial burden: one weekend's visit costs around $800-$1000. Butler's expenses don't end there; she spends around $600 annually to fly her niece who lives in Texas to Washington to visit her father, Butler's brother, at least once a year.

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The Importance of Specialized Support: Introducing 300 Letters

While general self-care practices are essential, the unique challenges faced by families experiencing incarceration often require specialized support. This is where organizations like 300 Letters play a crucial role.

300 Letters is a nonprofit organization that provides mental health support specifically tailored to families experiencing incarceration. Founded by Amanda Tarver, who herself navigated the challenges of being a formerly incarcerated individual, 300 Letters aims to fill the gap in emotional and psychological support for those affected by the prison system.

Amanda Tarver's personal experience highlights the need for such specialized support:

"I realized early on when I came back home that there were not any resources focused on the emotional and internal side of dealing with being incarcerated. No one talks about the stigma or the lack of confidence and self-esteem you feel when you experience a MAJOR life changing event, especially one that stripped you of everything you know, love & are accustomed to."

300 Letters offers a range of services, including support groups, counseling, and resources to help individuals and families cope with the emotional toll of incarceration. Their approach recognizes that the impacts of incarceration extend far beyond the prison walls, affecting the mental health and well-being of entire families and communities.

"It took me years to learn that children of incarcerated parents are 6X more likely to be incarcerated themselves and it made no sense to me that programs and support were not easily accessible to ensure success in life and families, so I created it my damn self."

By providing mental health support and resources to families, 300 Letters aims to reduce the likelihood of intergenerational incarceration and promote healing and success for all family members affected by the prison system.

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Practical Steps for Self-Care

• Seek support: Join a support group for women with incarcerated loved ones or explore speaking with a therapist who understands your unique situation.
• Set boundaries: It's okay to limit the time and energy you devote to prison-related concerns. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
• Practice mindfulness: Meditation, yoga, or simple breathing exercises can help manage stress and keep you grounded.
• Stay connected: Nurture relationships with friends and family who can offer emotional support and a sense of normalcy.
• Take care of your physical health: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep all contribute to better mental health.
• Acknowledge your strength: Recognize the immense value of the invisible labor you're performing. Your efforts matter, even when they go unnoticed by others.

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A Holistic Approach to Support

At Pelipost, we believe in a holistic approach to supporting families affected by incarceration. While our photo-sharing app helps maintain vital connections between incarcerated individuals and their loved ones, we recognize the importance of mental health support in this journey.

We encourage our Pelipost family to explore resources like 300 Letters and other specialized support services. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. By taking care of your mental health and accessing appropriate support, you're not only helping yourself but also strengthening your ability to support your incarcerated loved one.

Remember, caring for your mental health isn't selfish—it's necessary. By staying strong and balanced, you're better able to support your loved one and maintain hope for the future. At Pelipost, we're here to help you stay connected with your incarcerated loved one, making this challenging journey a little easier for both of you.

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